Wednesday, November 7, 2007

Companion vs. Boyfriend

OK - now some people may not think that there is a difference but ask anyone who has actually been in relationships, dated and just "hung out" with people and they will tell you there is a difference, and a BIG one.

Definitions:
boyfriend (plural boyfriends)
A male partner in a non-marital romantic relationship.

companion (plural companions)
a friend, acquaintance, or partner; someone with whom one spends time or keeps company

Already we can see that a companion does not necessarily mean that you are in any way in a romantic relationship...

Commitment:
Boyfriend: You are in a relationship and he is Committed, 100% (unless he cheats and then you should just dump him). He is yours and only yours for the duration of the relationship.

Companion: There is no relationship status and there is no commitment. This is a person with whom you casually hang out with maybe to have coffee, go to the museum, talk about life, etc.

Obligations
Boyfriend He is obligated to get you presents on holidays and your birthday. Comfort you when you are upset, rub your feet when you've had a long day, send you flowers when you need a pick me up, buy you chicken soup when you're sick, blah blah, you get the idea.

Companion Is not obligated to do any of the above except listen to you when you've had a bad day. He is not obligated to buy flowers, or presents or any of the above. He is strictly meant to keep you company occasionally and venture out to places if you both have time.

Intimacy
Boyfriend
No holds barred, do/try/say everything. Sex is a big part of this relationship

Companion
Stick to the basics and either you add the sex element or you don't and if you don't it's not a big deal. This is not a booty call situation.

Now whether you agree with this or not is your own opinion but this is and will remain to be my opinion on the subject.